Why We Say Deaf—Figuring Out Words to Describe Our Baby’s Hearing Loss

There are a few ways we describe our daughter's condition—"she's hard of hearing", "she has hearing loss," "she uses hearing aids," or "she's deaf."

Here's why we usually say "She's deaf."

Most people (us previously included) have little knowledge of the spectrum of hearing loss. Even fewer know about LSL.

It's the Most Recognized

Most people (us previously included) have little knowledge of the spectrum of hearing loss. Even fewer know about LSL.

But most people have heard of "deafness," at least through cultural references. So, "deaf" serves as a familiar term, which can be a jumping off point.

It's true that when people hear "deaf" they make a lot of assumptions. But, we love to explain LSL!

And her hard work shines when she shows them what she can do.

We Err On the Side of Greater Accommodation

We want people to take our requests for accommodation seriously.

"She's deaf" has a clear gravitas that gets the point across.

Until she can self-advocate, we want to make sure we're doing what we can.

It Acknowledges the Complexity of Hearing Loss

Hearing loss falls on a spectrum—from mild loss to profound. Loss can vary from ear to ear and may change over time.

The word "deaf" often refers to profound hearing loss. There's often more to the story than where a child tests in a booth or ABR.

We're comfortable with "deaf" as the most inclusive term for her condition.

We're Proud To be Part of the deaf Community

The deaf community is incredible. While we didn't choose it, we're proud and honored to be a part of it!

All of the Terms are Useful

We do use and appreciate all of the terms.  We often gauge which to use situationally.

We totally understand and respect why others might have different preferences.

Our preference might change over time, especially when she gets older and can tell us what she likes!

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What feels most right to you?